Parvati Pharswan

Rejection : A double Edged Sword

A very Happy and Prosperous New Year 2023 .May this year brings happiness , Love and prosperity to everyone .

Well we must have heard a lot of times about the word rejection , we all face it every where in fact in every phase of life be it in career, relationship, anything we are doing and if it don’t go accordingly is termed as rejection . We could also relate it somehow to the word “Failure”.I feel rejections are a part of our life , they teach us not to give up, get up everyday with a new spirit and a new mindset , with a beautiful smile on face . But do we all think the same ?

No!

Majority of us consider rejection as a stop ! To our destiny , life and stop trying it and think there is nothing left in life . Students rejected in quiz competition, getting demotivated, people getting rejected in relationship getting frustrated, taking unusual steps and so on… what is the impact of this rejection in our daily life which is happening it is making us feel that we are good for nothing, we have nothing left in our life apart from this .This is getting to a very different level people are getting , anxieties, getting into depression and committing suicide and so on …

But is this the right way to fight from Rejection ? Well !! No , we should fight for it . We should stand up, cheer ourselves, there will be frustrating days , Off-course there will be a time you will feel doing nothing , being rude to others hurt them it’s Okay !! But don’t do injustice to yourself don’t let you life go with any rejection or failure coming towards you … Life becomes more beautiful and more enjoyable once you face lots of rejection!! Trust me treat this way , God has made you so powerful that’s the reason you are able to take it all . Once you start practicing it you will enjoy every bit of life , you won’t stop yourself from trying and even rejection won’t bother you anymore after that ….. It comes a great experience, and Off-course a deep pain writing all this and sharing it … because a smiling face is the one which which is not as always ! it had also faces lots of rejections, failures and traumas and left altogether back…

Hence forth don’t make Rejection as your weakness make it your strength , Enjoy it like a wine , shine it like a warrior !!!!

Is Marriage a Societal Pressure / Trap ?

This topic is always been a debatable in terms of success which we mostly get to hear from friends , relatives and so called people around us who are not bothered about their own stuffs but are very much intrested in others life.

Marriage is nowadays considered a trap , which is definitely a pressures on us , from parents , and other relatives which is termed as you are now settled , financially why don’t you get married ?? Whether you are not prepared mentally for it but still people will remind you , everytime you meet them, the comparison will be at utmost that others are married and have kids , why don’t you get married? See people will say if things are right , People will still say if things are not working as alligned.As we always say in Hindi language ‘kuch to log kahenge logo ka kaam hai kehna ‘.

So don’t take this in your heart , What my dad will say , feel or my mum she is getting old grannie not feeling better just because of it you are doing injustice towards your life -and regretting it lifetime.

This becomes difficult to make them understand because of this unwanted pressure we don’t see the upcoming lifetime huddle in life , which i had faced in my life and am literally facing till now, i have emotional towards my dad, my family and all the other people whom I dont consider was important. Because it’s all me who is responsible to take the blame irresponsible of what the situation was and how much I never wanted to let it happen!

So friends this is a suggestion, let the things suggestions come to own way , most welcome you follow your heart that’s the beautiful way you will feeel more confident and in worst case if something goes wrong too you will not have a guilt that you could have make it right !!

Just because everyone is posting pictures on social media , everyone are enjoying their honeymoon, they are wearing their lehengas girls and guys don’t follow this trap trust me!! First know the process know the person , realise it in yourself whether you are ready to take the responsibility and then once you feel for it go for it …

By the way that’s my sisters photo which happened last year 2022. God bless her always with a beautiful smile on her face .

Mother : A Walking Mirror

This topic or subject doesn’t need any explanation, its too deeply emotional, intensely the most beautiful subject or a topic to be discussed.

Mom, mother(Maa) we call it all just signifies one thing : “Home “. All the obstacles, problem’s disappear when my you are there , be it emotionally, physically, mentally.You give us the hope to be optimistic, to think about the best version of ourselves.You sacrifice so many things for us since beginning, takes care of our each and every needs and expectations- becomes a mediator to convey the messages to dad , specifically getting permissions for some planned or unplanned trips in starting of teen age .

You jwell up with my friends, prepare them beautiful food , do hard work so that we can lead a happy and beautiful life . Oh mom you are the most beautiful personin this world .Your love is so pious ,strong.There is no breaking or bending in it .You are our first teacher in family, you teach things to differentiate between good and bad, not to be harsh, negative, and always kind to others .

I know we have been through a lots of problems since our childhood which we all would have gone , I am pretty sure but today I wanna say very confidently that you were the reason for this Indeprndence.Success , courage , and happiness, You still are the reason.Eventhough we think and try we cannot match ever whatever you have done it for us .

Thankyouu so much for being as a support system, and a cheerleader for everyone in family!!

Love ❤️

Positivity: Key to success and Happiness!

We often get this advise from parents since our childhood, teachers when we were in school, stay positive every thing is going to be good , and I used to wonder that time how positivity have any relationship of making anything happen, at the end the result will be your hard work.

But now I realised , its all karma and is interconnected, it’s beautifully connected to each other to live a beautiful, and successful life. And indeed it is the first and the foremost,thing everytime we do anything in life, we should have a positive approach, a right attitude, to start so that if we face any obstacle in between then ar that time, the right mindset will let it complete if you are confident, positive. There will be a time when you will eventually fail too, but this mindset which we have been taught to keep as positive since childhood, is very important to get any thing done happen.It not only adds value in your life but also in your personality, and your inner soul. You become more confident, more wiser , and more successful towards anything.

Hence positivity is the key to success, of any relationship, any work to be done, any issues you face in life.

One Night stand

In toda’ys age , relationships are just meant to meet, text, share feelings , and then the physical intimacy, there is no emotional connection , there is no motivation and growth for success.. May be the topic which have been choosed thats justifying these worfs , However this one night stand concept is so much getting involved in our current generations, and cultures where we could find people are just not focused on anything else apart from the physical intimacy.

It could be good for their mental peace since its a debatable topic and its upto the choice and consent too, but it is bringing up lots of tensions, pressure amongst us, I have seen youngsters who literally would be in their starting of teen are just getting depressed, and adopting such things . My point is from where these things are feeded in their minds , from where they feel these things makes them a stud, and gives the immense joy and pleasure and utmost satisfaction. They forget these things are the way to hell, as these drives the urge to get physical intimacy more , which again eventually turns into a lust, toda’ys Generation is following the same trend they are sinply focussing to create this so called image of being a cool guy/girl si that they can balance between this societal pressure, and also match the standards between their colleagues and friends .

My personal opinion is we shouldn’t forget, we get only one life make it more useful, beneficial, beautiful for yourself.. Take care of your body, love your body dont just let this physical thing get inyo your head, otherwise it will suck your blood, and ending up mental illness.

Love yourself, love your body, meet people, be adventurous, be disciplined, be career oriented. Be there with whom you love spend time, spend time have parties , and enjoy life.

Life is beautiful, make it more meaningful, more beautiful everyday!!!Cheeers !!

Anxiety : A Real Thing

I do love to share things mostly, which I go through in my every phases of my life, be it something exciting part of journey, or the worst decision I have ever made in my life, and trust me these posts are not for some kind of social recognition these are a way to express my feelings , and all the hidden pain, or the thoughts i do perceive.

Today’s topic is all about Anxiety and my topic is mostly on relationship anxiety, most of the times I go through or face through such situations where I feel alone being in relationship, i mean broken or somehow not being connected to my partner which again shouldn’t happen and is not a good sign, most people infact feel not secure while sharing out, but I feel sooo hectic, and insecure, may be yea because of such insecurities which I had in my last relationship which i know ruins the current relationship as well, but if you convey the same thing to your partner this should be the responsibility and understanding from your partner to support you understand you , when you utter such words and have some negative thoughts in your mind, because people only talk wrong or say things wrong in relationship when they demand so much love. So it should be very much important to understand that way from each other that how much you owe each other and how much you have feelings for each other..

We can definitely, work on this thing to get resolved by having positive mindset which idefinitely is not possible every time, we can always think about focussed and discipline ideas how can we stop the negative anxieties, because the end result is going to be negative. I wont say do mediation , do yoga , i would say whatever your heart says do that , if it says dance go for it! Just think what you love , because you are the creator of your own life , so why will you get it destroyed by having some negativity, or anxiety around you??

So stop or try to stop it in relationship, and if you are happy in yourself the oerson who loves you or wanna be with you will definitely put efforts to be with you and understand you ☺️!

Cheers !!

Smile!!! Its a beautiful gift

We everyday go with lots of problems, toxicity, since the time we get up from the bed till we sleep. We ourselves are not aware how we bring up the negativity, in our body , mind, and soul, by dealing with lots of hustle, and day to day activities.

Hence we need to make sure we need to take care of ourselves, and thats how???

Some says , workout, go gym, do this that, but I believe in positivity, with just a beautiful smile on our face, for every approach, and every decision we make in our life.it not only enlighten our mood and life , but also give strength to us to overcome difficulties.

So smile, please its a beautiful thing !!

Work from home : Bliss or a Curse !!

I am a tech lead and have 8.5 years of experience in IT industry . I am such a person who feels discipline is a key factor in every field or relationship…

Since we are talking about wfh in IT industry or anyother field i feel personally its a bliss for me and i think people should take it like this because, it not only helps me to be more distributed to other things and also can focus and try out new things. It increases my flexibility, more and makes me more responsible and flexible towards my work . Once i know my task duration and i also understand the importance of it. So everything lies into you if you know your goals , the priority, wfh can be used in such a beautiful manner …

I am such a person who has improved alot with this liverage given. I worked out on my physical appearance, i became mentally strong .. i learnt a lot of new things i started adapting new things like : i started blogging so yea it was a beautiful gift provided to me by god. Because i still remember whenever i used to feel restless simedays where I didn’t wanted to go to office and my job, manager demands me to come office i used to pray the day that we dont have to go Office. And trust me it came tooo which was unbelievable from that time tilll now i feel it as a miracle and just love the concept being organised in every aspect.

Although upto certain or to some people it acted like a curse, because they felt they are not able to manage their personal life well with their office at home. They used to get so much frustrated that they needed someone outside to interact a new or a one whol they can discuss any issues going on… so because of that people started feeling lonely, anxietic and wanted to go to office or interact once office opens . So its a vice versa case as for sime it can be a best way to just make your self a best version like me : who is still learning although … for few it didnt helped that way…

At the end I would just say understand your priorities, and just balance it out, once these two are doing you will be able to take wfh only as blisss… and will be happier if it continues forever ☺️😃

Morning rituals

Its very much important for us to start our day with a positive mindset, beautiful thoughts around us.

For that I personally start it by playing some devotional songs I feel rhey create some positivity around us and our whole atmosphere. Its a beautiful thing to just remember god and being thankful for him he provided to us. Then i do morning routines and get ready for workout.This way out whole day getd balanced and we are able to focus properly if we are starting with the positive and beautiful thoughts around us…. making it a discipline is although tough somedays are there where you feel low and just need to be yourself….. but as i always insist discipline is very much important in every aspect be it oir personal life , or lifestyle this way it not only balances our system but also. Relieves us from stress and keep us happy throughout our whole day….

So we should always try to make our routine a beautiful, and an impact full one , so that we can emphasise it will be useful for our daily… so be positive and create positivity no negative thoughts, All happy n smiling thoughts and faces 🤘🤗

My fitness journey

Fitness is not only to keep yourself physically fit , It also means you should be mentally strong to overcome all the challenges in your life confidentially, along with positive approach.

Well I started my fitness journey back in 2015 like every one , clueless, i just myself to be fit and was lookinf for dance classes or zumba nearby, however was not gettting any classes nearby. So thought lets try working out in gym. I learned lots of things understanding, basic movement excercises and was continuing it further till the time covid appeared in all our lives and just like others it gave a , stop to follow and changed the patterns of my whole workout,which was little demotivating for me, snd shock ar the same time, because till that time fitness was just not physical excercise for me , it was also a routine, it was a medium to keep me mentally stong stress free, and keeping awats the hurdles of my life.so i was not able to balance my personal life and professional life. I had major traumatic experience ongoing at that time, and i was not able to understand, how should I overcome through this, then thanks to cultfit, and my dearest friend who suggested me to use her app, and try online .

So this is the time i learned lots of things there yoga which not only helps me to be physically fir but also, mentally stronger, boxing me and arms, stronger, and all kinds of endurance excrcises, i made new friends, through this journey and liking it alot…. i have s special person in my life who encourages me to always not to stop, life heavy weights and celebrates my success to that. I am delightful and thankful for him to be there and support me in all ways … all together i am thankful to god to help me and to always support in all tough ways !

As its rightly said if your intenions are good. You will get the right path, and thats what i am following tooo….!🤞